Singing For Her


December 2013


Happy New Year!


Having tattoos and piercings is not unprofessional. What’s unprofessional is turning down an aspiring employee due to superficial reasons and not their skill level or experience.




Just in case

I’m actually going to reblog a thing just because this is really important.

As someone who has epilepsy and used to have several grand mal seizures a day, I’d also like to add that “offer help” can range anywhere from keeping the person calm to explaining to them where they are and what they were doing to even just telling them they should sit and rest for a while longer (lack or coordination is common, and it can be hard to walk straight or see clearly).

It’s okay for them to take up to a half hour to fully regain their bearings and sort out what they were doing prior to the seizure. Just answer any questions calmly and be there for support.

If they come around and you start to panic or shake them or ask them what the heck is wrong with them they are going to freak out and panic too.

I cannot stress it enough that this is bad.

If someone has a seizure and they come out of it, please. please stay calm.
They are likely disoriented and confused, even if it’s only for a minute or two, and you don’t want them panicking on top of that because they can have another seizure as a result.



J U M P by Georg Scharf

Hello, my name is Grace and I really want to do nothing more than be a writer but the only thing that I feel good writing are very melancholic suspense books and my parents don’t think I should be writing such sad or borderline creepy story lines. What do you think I should do?


Let’s see, firstly, you are the only person who gets to decide what kind of things you write. Not your friends, your lovers, your parents, your children. You. Other people do not even get to vote. The art you make is not a democracy, nor are the stories you tell.

Secondly, and I tell you this because you might want to tell your parents… in my relatively wide experience, the single most depressed group of writers I’ve ever run into are comedians-who-write-their-own-material and funny writers. Not all of them are troubled and worried offstage, but a lot of them are: they look sad, haunted, and they seem to worry a lot about everything.

Horror writers on the other hand, seem almost terrifyingly happy, well-adjusted and cheerful. Perhaps they get it all out onto the page. But they are easy-going folk, who laugh at jokes (writers of humour rarely laugh at jokes. They nod, when a joke is made, and say “That’s funny,” flatly) and go on picnics and are very nice company if you can overlook their occasional tendency over dinner to discuss ways to dispose of inconveniently dead bodies.

So I would write whatever you want to write, Grace, and not worry about your parents.


Art Will Make Your Kids Better Thinkers (And Nicer People). Sincerely, Science.

30 Days of Hekatean Devotion: 16

16. How does Hekate represent the values of Her pantheon and cultural origins? (UPG and SPG as well as references to vague theories posited by scholars without heed to who said what precisely.)


Hekate has been a Goddess of multiple pantheons, from Her adoption into the Greek Pantheon to Her central role in the Chaldean mythology. Romans named Her Trivia. Over the centuries in which She has been honored, She has, so far as academics are concerned, absorbed a wide range of other Goddesses.

For the Ancient Greeks, most evidence puts Her as a boundary guardian. She protected the home from baleful influences, and thus was named Averter. By the 5th century BCE, She had gained traits associated with childbirth as well as witchcraft. Even in the ancient world, the Gods were not static.

Hekate stands between the Greeks and the outside world, between the household and those who would bring it harm. I wonder if that role between the peoples of Hellas and the rest of the world is not why She had to be at least seen as a adoptee from Thrace or Caria. In a way one can understand the necessity for a boundary guardian as a reflection of the ultimate xenophobia of non-Hellenes (or for that matter towards other Greeks from different regions!) that shaped the Greek poleis.  

But Hekate has not remained the minor guardian Goddess that She seems to have been in Greek Cultus. She grew, and Her role continued to encapsulate the idea of the ‘Other’ in a multitude of ways, but no longer could She be understood solely as a guardian. She came to protect all times of uncertainty, which even today, seem all too common. Birth, Death, the Afterlife, Journeys, Prophecy, Magic… all these require a certain liminality. And so Hekate has Her measure of them all.

Hekate’s origins remain a bit of a mystery. Scholars all have their preferences. Thrace and Caria seem fast favorites, and there are good arguments for both. With such a murky beginning, I cannot speak to how She reflects Her original culture. She has been adopted by too many peoples with too many needs, and She has proven true.

Hekate does not fit squarely in one pantheon, nor does She rest easily into the category of the Witch Gods. She always has been and remains More. She is a Titaness who bridges boundaries, who stands at the gap between this world and the next, who accompanies those of us who do not fit in so well. This does not surprise me.

I don’t believe that Gods are static beings, nor that the organic birth of things like pantheons and cultures leads to a simple formula like the above question implies. Gods and beliefs and practices are more complex than that. Of course, your mileage may have taught you otherwise.

Image: Hecate Chiaramonti, owned by the Museo Chiaramonti, Vatican City. Roman era. 

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