Deities and entities are not static, they are multi-faceted. They have so many differences, unique personalities, especially towards their devotees. The deity decides what you need from their aspects and chooses accordingly. Someone might get the cruel aspects while another a kind and caring aspect.
And anybody who says otherwise, hasn’t gotten past the fact deities and entities are not static and not the same for everyone.
Please respect other peoples beliefs and experiences if they have the opposite of what you have. That person is getting the aspects of the deity and entity they need. And it will be different from your own.